Posts Tagged ‘Us’

Something new

Well, it DID look as if there were going to be changes, and there are.

We’ve decided to mix things up a bit and now I’m the submissive one.

I’ve been submissive for many years and last year we spent 131 days in a MALE/female oriented relationship and we had a lot of fun. Then, of course, we had a swap around…and had just as much fun.

Yesterday, my submission was accepted and I now have a list of 10 (TEN??!!) rules to follow. No pressure there, then!

In time I will divulge them but for now I must re-acquaint myself with bloody WordPress as I have been told to take over this blog. Doing the occasional post was all well and good but having to do it more often is just going to confuse me as I have a vanilla blog on Blogger and I am much more used to using that.

I’ll be back…


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Desertion of duty

Or as the picture emphasises, rolling tumbleweed…………….

Not that it is a duty, I was coining a phrase, as opposed to coining a car which is malicious and spiteful, anyway, moving on…………..

It’s been too long (again) but I won’t make lots of apologies,  excuses and comments about there only being one post in a month the way I did in the last post (the only of that month too) it would be far too tedious for those that are still occasionally popping in for an update.

What I will say though is that during this month there will be some changes (to the blog, layout etc) at least, well that’s what I aim to do anyway (or I may get someone to help me, hint hint)

It’s unlikely there will be any changes re Claire and me, we are still incredibly wrapped up in our separate “vanilla” lives and still predominantly flatline, though both continuing to have a little dabble at either being submissive or dominant at times. It gets quite entertaining when neither is feeling particularly submissive but both are feeling the opposite, oh the battles fun we have lol. We are both still incredibly happy and in love too which is wonderful 🙂

We both really want to keep the blog ticking over until such a time that things settle down for us (should hopefully only be another few months) and then things will no doubt find some sort of natural balance (wont they pet) … (couldn’t resist lol) so over the next few weeks I want to try and change the look of the blog, headings, sections etc to more reflect the current status quo (no, not the group) and also so that those of you still tuning in have something different to look at, even if it’s the same but in a different place it will be different, wont it? Not sure, confusing myself now, time to go I think…………

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The tone and content of this (next intended) post has changed several times over the past few weeks. I will try to explain as best I can without boring you all to tears…………………………….

Initially when I posted the last (change is in the air) post the subsequent post was going to be somewhat different to this one, there was also a stage when it could have been entirely different again, what do you mean I am making little sense, ok, fair comment, let me try to make some sort of start on an explanation.

A few weeks ago Claire and I were going through quite a difficult, actually difficult is not the right word, ummmm, strained, better but still not right, demanding, thats it, quite a demanding time in our respective “vanilla” lives, not with our relationship I hasten to add, that goes from strength to strength, but the demands our individual (not as Claire and Paul) lives were placing led to us both slipping very much into a flatline mode (as we call it).

Flatline is when neither of us is feeling particularly Dominant or submissive, as thorough readers of the blog will know, in the past we have both been submissive and Dominant at different stages, flatline is when we are neither.

When I last posted about change being in the air this is what I was referring to, the fact that at that time Claire was not my Domme, nor was I her sub. I started to change the blog layout; headings etc to reflect this and planned on posting something explaining this in more detail.

It had the potential of being quite an open and revealing post as I was going to thoroughly describe my thoughts feelings and emotions around the change, Claire was possibly going to do the same, as you can tell it didn’t happen.

Fast forward another week or so (it really does feel so much longer) and our flatline state was undergoing a slight change, Claire was beginning to feel flatline/submissive and I was slipping into flatline/Dominant mode. We went away last weekend and had a truly lovely break (thank you Claire), during which time we “played” a little to that effect (as we had done before going away) and both very much enjoyed it.

Since returning though this has flipped again and Claire is now flatline Dominant while I am flatline submissive, although that’s not strictly true. Unlike when it was the other way round, there is much less flatline this way round, possibly because we had spent many many months with me as her sub.

It is still very early days but as it stands at the moment it looks very much like it is business as usual (appalling use of a phrase I apologise lol) and we both seem to be picking up (tentatively but steadily) where we left off prior to the period of flatline that we went through.

It is still a case of watch this space as anything really could happen, we both know that now and are so lucky to be able to adapt to the other and situations as proficiently as we do  🙂

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……. of the stamp……

I have been playing, no, not like that, well yes, of course like that (when allowed obviously) but that’s not what this short post is about.

The playing I refer to is with the blog, I have added an email link in the about us section (plus one on the sidebar that I have tried to make unfriendly to spammers but it may be quickly removed if not lol)

Claire and I were talking and we thought it would be nice as it gives other options for those that may be too cautious to comment but would like to say or ask something.

It may get used it may not (it doesn’t really matter) and equally it may be a resounding flop and vanish after a short period of time, but for now its there 🙂

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1st Post (proper)

I thought it best to explain a few things before the blog gets under way properly, hence this post, its a post of an explanatory nature…….

Firstly the more astute and observant of you will have noticed that not only do I refer to the person I belong to as Claire but also, interchangeably, as my Domme. I should also add she is my true love , my life partner, my soul mate and my very best friend (amongst many many other things will which will no doubt become clearer/known as this blog progresses)

Our relationship is so much more than a Domme and her boy/sub and because of that we both recognise how very lucky we are, it is also because our relationship is such that we no longer use the capitalisation that is often seen and used in many D/s relationships. I say that in case anyone reading thought “what a rude and disrespectful sub he is” … “ he doesn’t refer to his Domme as Her and uses a capital I for himself and even a capital P for his name” …. I can assure you I am VERY respectful of Claire and any rudeness on my part or disrespect, if I dared show any, is addressed immediately by her (thank you Claire).

I very much hope this blog will develop and grow as solidly and enjoyably as our relationship has and maybe even serve as a source of information, ideas and above all enjoyment for anyone that may stumble across it. But please bear with me as this whole blogging thing is a totally new concept to me so it may take me a while to get my head round it, in saying that I am told I am a fast learner (surprising what a bit of “encouragement” can do lol) so it may not be too bad 🙂

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